Question: I left the Catholic Church some time ago
because I just could no longer believe what I was told I was supposed to
believe. I found the Truth in the Scriptures and was set free. I have a
problem, and that is my parents. They are rigid, unquestioning Catholics
and believe that Rome is never wrong. They have been aggressively
badgering me to return to the Eucharist and I finally told them I no
longer believed the way they do. I tried to speak to them lovingly and
with compassion and understanding, but my efforts were to no avail. They
were furious. What is my further responsibility to my parents, other
than praying for them? I want to do what is right and Christ-like.
Answer: I appreciate what you're going through at the
moment. Your letter reminded me of my own experience many years
back. I became a Christian at about 15 years of age, and at one point my
parents tried to force me to go to Mass the following Sunday. I replied that religion is a
matter of personal conviction; if they forced me to go against my
conscience, I would be constrained to leave home. It was not the brightest day of my life!
As your brother in the Lord, I encourage you to remain faithful to
the Lord Jesus and His Word. Do not make spiritual compromises for your parents'
sake (even though, if you could, you would be very quick to do so to
please them). Keep in mind the words of Jesus,
“He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me.”
On the other hand, and this is what I want to emphasize, your
responsibility to your parents remains to honour and respect them
always. When
you speak to them it should always be with an attitude of respect. I
thank God that you are already doing this. I encourage you to
continue to show respect and reverence, no matter what their attitude might be, even if
they are angry. Your parents love you and want what is best for you in
their eyes. Take it that way and thank them for their concern.
Furthermore, I certainly would not advise you to avoid speaking to
them. But, just as Peter tells the Christian woman who has an
unbelieving husband, I recommend that you avoid theological debates and
arguments at this point. Show them what Christianity is by your attitude and not with your preaching. By all means answer their
questions about religion, but do not bring up the subject
yourself, and at some point, make sure to underline the fact that you
understand their motive, "Dad, Mum, I appreciate your concern for
my soul. I disagree with you on certain things, but I am sure that
you're telling me this because you love me. Thank you!"
May the Lord give you wisdom and strength in your difficult
situation. May God have mercy on your parents - they may or may never
come out of the Roman Catholic system, yet God can still save them
through that simple faith in Christ Jesus. You may be His instrument to
show them the beauty and perfection of our wonderful Saviour the Lord Jesus
Christ.